Romance, Dating and Trauma

Why Dating Never Heals Emotional Pain People with attachment troubles or other child trauma often ask: why is dating so difficult?  It is, for a reason. So instead of the dating hunt,  I invested my life, fortune, and sacred honor to work for “earned secure attachment.”  Dr. Dan Siegel says that’s when we start out […]

What is EMDR – and Why is it So Effective?

“During REM sleep, the brain is attempting to process survival information until it’s resolved.” Eye Motion Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a potent trauma treatment developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro (left), a literature professor who was diagnosed with cancer.  The shock of suddenly finding her survival was under threat, affected her so strongly that Dr. […]

A Pastor’s Battle with Childhood Trauma

[This week we have “Overcoming Adverse Childhood Experiences” (ACEs), a guest blog by Pastor Dave Lockridge of northern California (left). What a story, and what a persistent heart! – Kathy] From the Merced Sun Star, Merced County, CA: When I became a pastor as a young man, I was prepared to minister to my congregants […]

The Adult Attachment Interview (AAI) (Pt.1 of 2)

Mary Ainsworth’s Strange Situation Only 55% of us have “secure attachment”– a number which would worry us all if we knew what it meant — according to 1970-1996 research on over 2,000 infant-parent pairs. And the level of attachment we get as infants continues all our lives in our relationships. The math says the other […]