Romance, Dating and Trauma

Why Dating Never Heals Emotional Pain People with attachment troubles or other child trauma often ask: why is dating so difficult?  It is, for a reason. So instead of the dating hunt,  I invested my life, fortune, and sacred honor to work for “earned secure attachment.”  Dr. Dan Siegel says that’s when we start out […]

New Brain Series

Webinar Series in Progress, April 8-May 13 Dr. Dan Siegel kicked off the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine’s invaluable 2015 “New Brain Series” of weekly webinars April 8. The series continues through May, and you can catch Dr. Pat Odgen on “Why the Body Matters When Working with Brain Science,”  Wednesday, May […]

What is EMDR – and Why is it So Effective?

“During REM sleep, the brain is attempting to process survival information until it’s resolved.” Eye Motion Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a potent trauma treatment developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro (left), a literature professor who was diagnosed with cancer.  The shock of suddenly finding her survival was under threat, affected her so strongly that Dr. […]

A Pastor’s Battle with Childhood Trauma

[This week we have “Overcoming Adverse Childhood Experiences” (ACEs), a guest blog by Pastor Dave Lockridge of northern California (left). What a story, and what a persistent heart! – Kathy] From the Merced Sun Star, Merced County, CA: When I became a pastor as a young man, I was prepared to minister to my congregants […]

The Adult Attachment Interview (AAI) (Pt.1 of 2)

Mary Ainsworth’s Strange Situation Only 55% of us have “secure attachment”– a number which would worry us all if we knew what it meant — according to 1970-1996 research on over 2,000 infant-parent pairs. And the level of attachment we get as infants continues all our lives in our relationships. The math says the other […]